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I figured out DaKnife wanted to be more than just friends because he kept making comments about how wonderful I was, and worrying that I might not like him as much, and making sure we had the next date set up before the current date ended.
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Who has that kind of courage? A few months ago, I had a dream about a guy I sort of liked at the time. In my dream, I was on a yellow school bus. He was on the bus as well. And I asked him, "Do you like me?" But due to fear, I woke up before I found out the answer! Now if I am that scared in my dream life, there is no way I could do that in my waking life.
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Jason, I hope you don't mind if I impugn your motives. I may have the wrong person, but I think you may have asked over a year ago how to know if a woman likes you. You are just trying to make it easier on the men!
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Maybe because I'm a guy, I think it is much easier to read men than women, at least for initial interest.
For initial interest: Guys will go out of their way to talk with you longer than with others while making the socializing rounds at activities. Guys will try some sort of physical contact, like pushing or shoving or touching the arm. Guys will give compliments. Guys may try jokes. Guys eyes will tend to be always looking at you. Guys will test the water and ask for interest in an innocent activity, maybe even a group activity. Guys will plan their game night or potluck around your schedule to ensure that you can come. Guys will smile more for you than for others.
I think a lot of men's behavior can be guaged in degrees. We all like to socialize and will do all of the above mentioned things on occasion, but if the guy does it more for you than for others, then you can know there is some interest.
If you are already good friends, notice how much physical contact he initiates with you or if he wants to be alone with you more than with others.
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Jason, I do not know if any of the activities that you mentioned are really any different when women have interest in men. In the end, it really is easy to misinterpret cues. While I don't think I would ask a man if he likes me, I did tell a single male friend that I liked him in no uncertain terms. I told another single male friend when he had not written more for a time that I did expect anything of him. I just wanted him to be well. And he explained how he had been busy starting his business. I guess that my message was not specific to romantic interests, but I think he understood. I also have a single male friend who has told me how he plans to never marry in this life and vaguely why he feels that way. Sometimes we sort of flirt with each other. But I think we do it more or less because it is nice to have someone who cares and we do care about each other. I don't mean that we have strong romantic feelings for each other. We just like to keep in touch by email and have done the instant messaging thing.
I don't think we can go by inferences when it comes to something as important as finding an eternal mate. Some men that I may have liked to date exhibited some of the behavior that Jason described with me, but never asked me out. Although my not driving and getting rides from various men was in a way like dating without really dating. Oh, and then I started having severe mental problems and that would be a reasonable explanation too. It was fun to have them flirt and do such things as pretend like they were falling on me when ice skating or touching me as they walked by. But when they touched me when they walked by and there was more than one person around, it was hard to know who did it. Not that I would have done anything about it.
I wonder how many people have missed out on what may have been a happy relationship as they were too busy making deductions. When you like a girl, you have to ask her out. And she may say yes even if she is not very interested. But if she says no, then you know. Although things can change. I knew a young woman who was going to go away to be a Nanny to get away from a man who let his intensions be known and his fondness of her. But something changed and they were married.
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A very appropriate theme song was on the Easy Listening Channel on Digital Cable. "My eyes adored you....like a million miles away from me you couldn't see how I adored you, so close and yet so far." Well, I think those are the words as it was an instrumental version.
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Yeah, I don't think coming out and asking would be a good choice, at least for me. Not only would I be too nervous in the first place, I know I would second guess and be even more nervous after, no matter what the answer was.
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I can't help but think that sometimes you don't know the answer.
So often, if one person were to ask another "Do you like me enough to get serious?" the other may not know yet. It would be great if we could all be totally straight forward but in those beginning stages of a relationship you can go from "this guy/girl seems pretty cool" to " no thank you" pretty fast and the last thing you want is to have to tell them you changed your mind and you don't think you like them that way.
That's why we don't have those converstions. Too sticky....especially because you may change your mind again the next day.
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There you see her Sitting there across the way She don't got a lot to say But there's something about her
And you don't know why But you're dying to try You wanna kiss the girl
Yes, you want her Look at her, you know you do Possible she wants you to There is one way to ask her
It don't take a word Not a single word Go on and kiss the girl
[Sing with me now]
Sha la la la la la, my oh my Look like the boy too shy Ain't gonna kiss the girl
Sha la la la la la, ain't that sad Ain't it a shame, too bad He gonna miss the girl
Now's your moment Floating in a blue lagoon Boy, you'd better do it soon No time will be better
She don't say a word And she won't say a word Until you kiss the girl
Sha la la la la la, don't be scared You got the mood prepared Go on and kiss the girl
Sha la la la la la, don't stop now Don't try to hide it How you wanna kiss the girl
Sha la la la la la, float along And listen to the song The song say kiss the girl
Sha la la la la la, the music play Do what the music say You gotta kiss the girl
You've gotta kiss the girl You wanna kiss the girl You've gotta kiss the girl Go on and kiss the girl
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ask him!! but if you are too shy to then just ask him to hang out with you or something and then if he agrees then out on the "date" see the way he acts towards you. You should be able to tell, its just a girls incstinct! Posts: 2 | Registered: Aug 2006
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Girls love to know (or worry too much) about "let's define the relationship" which tires guys to no end. As Jason has said, guys are action-oriented; they show by doing. I agree with Jason's list.
Perhaps in a round 'bout way, ask him to do stuff on a group level. Or say, "I always wanted to see that movie". Or "I always wanted to check out that new restaurant",etc,etc. Giving open ended hints like that tells him you are interested in him. If he doesn't respond, he's not interested. If he does respond at some point (you need to give guys a little time on this BTW), then he's interested and will extend an offer to go do something with you.
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but if you are too shy to then just ask him to hang out with you or something and then if he agrees then out on the "date" see the way he acts towards you. You should be able to tell, its just a girls incstinct! 
